I'm trying to lose weght, and I do better with group motivation. I posted on a chatboard not associated with this site and posted my weight, and without any consideration of my heighth, (no one asked to consider in the computation), I get about 30 comments calling me all kinds of names and telling me I was essentially just too fat to love. Now, I am 160lbs, but I am 5'9" which makes me within healthy weight, albeit at the top end of the scale. I realize I must lose weight, but the negativity was not the kind of motivation I was looking for. Before I had my 2nd and 3rd child my regular weight was 120lbs which was about 15lbs underweight per any conventional scale, but I'm small boned and that is where I felt the best. I'm hoping to get down to at least 135 which is the minimum healthy weight for my height.